TheDarkDemon

I've had this question running through my thoughts for awhile.
to you guys,

is it the most annoying self-pity ever?

or something else?

i would like to know.

Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

jumpman jumpman jumpman them boys up to something

Jack wrote:Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

You make a good point, it doesnt really make any sense that they give themselves that when they dont even need it.

UnusAngelusAlatum wrote:

Jack wrote:Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

You make a good point, it doesnt really make any sense that they give themselves that when they dont even need it.

It's because we live in a society of under-developed man-children. The typical 'nice guy' is only nice because they assume their smiles and pleasantries will help them reach the goals they desire. A bit like a politician. They also tend to be... how to put it? Hollow. There's no depth to them - other than their overwhelming desire and egotistical self-pity.

I think it's probably a mixture of societal conditioning (Strong archetypes in media of the 'good guy' and 'bad guy') and upbringing ("You are my wonderful son who can do no wrong" etc.).

As to it being the most annoying self-pity; I think 99% of self-pity is pathetic. There's no point in sitting around whining about your inadequate life - just do something about it. Make a change. Especially those of us in first-world societies. There are very few limits outside of emotional ties. Cut people who you find toxic out of your life, because you'll probably find that you are toxic to them as well.

Sæglópur wrote:

UnusAngelusAlatum wrote:

Jack wrote:Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

You make a good point, it doesnt really make any sense that they give themselves that when they dont even need it.

It's because we live in a society of under-developed man-children. The typical 'nice guy' is only nice because they assume their smiles and pleasantries will help them reach the goals they desire. A bit like a politician. They also tend to be... how to put it? Hollow. There's no depth to them - other than their overwhelming desire and egotistical self-pity.

I think it's probably a mixture of societal conditioning (Strong archetypes in media of the 'good guy' and 'bad guy') and upbringing ("You are my wonderful son who can do no wrong" etc.).

As to it being the most annoying self-pity; I think 99% of self-pity is pathetic. There's no point in sitting around whining about your inadequate life - just do something about it. Make a change. Especially those of us in first-world societies. There are very few limits outside of emotional ties. Cut people who you find toxic out of your life, because you'll probably find that you are toxic to them as well.

I couldn't have said it better my friend.

gotta give mega kudos to the hollow statement.

Sæglópur wrote:

UnusAngelusAlatum wrote:

Jack wrote:Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

You make a good point, it doesnt really make any sense that they give themselves that when they dont even need it.

It's because we live in a society of under-developed man-children. The typical 'nice guy' is only nice because they assume their smiles and pleasantries will help them reach the goals they desire. A bit like a politician. They also tend to be... how to put it? Hollow. There's no depth to them - other than their overwhelming desire and egotistical self-pity.

I think it's probably a mixture of societal conditioning (Strong archetypes in media of the 'good guy' and 'bad guy') and upbringing ("You are my wonderful son who can do no wrong" etc.).

As to it being the most annoying self-pity; I think 99% of self-pity is pathetic. There's no point in sitting around whining about your inadequate life - just do something about it. Make a change. Especially those of us in first-world societies. There are very few limits outside of emotional ties. Cut people who you find toxic out of your life, because you'll probably find that you are toxic to them as well.

This is so fucking true. You can't just be kind through words, especially text. You have to be kind in action, and generous, honourable. Selfless. It took me a while to realise this, and if you're wondering how to be kind through actions, you need to seriously reassess your outlook on life.

Words are wind, actions are stone. You can't fake an action as well as you can fake a word.

Jon wrote:This is so fucking true. You can't just be kind through words, especially text. You have to be kind in action, and generous, honourable. Selfless. It took me a while to realise this, and if you're wondering how to be kind through actions, you need to seriously reassess your outlook on life.

Words are wind, actions are stone. You can't fake an action as well as you can fake a word.

Well said, Jon. You can't stab someone and then say 'Haha, just kidding!' It's been done and there's no reversing it.

Jon wrote:

Sæglópur wrote:

UnusAngelusAlatum wrote:

Jack wrote:Honestly, self-pity is only annoying when said self-pity isn't deserved.

You make a good point, it doesnt really make any sense that they give themselves that when they dont even need it.

It's because we live in a society of under-developed man-children. The typical 'nice guy' is only nice because they assume their smiles and pleasantries will help them reach the goals they desire. A bit like a politician. They also tend to be... how to put it? Hollow. There's no depth to them - other than their overwhelming desire and egotistical self-pity.

I think it's probably a mixture of societal conditioning (Strong archetypes in media of the 'good guy' and 'bad guy') and upbringing ("You are my wonderful son who can do no wrong" etc.).

As to it being the most annoying self-pity; I think 99% of self-pity is pathetic. There's no point in sitting around whining about your inadequate life - just do something about it. Make a change. Especially those of us in first-world societies. There are very few limits outside of emotional ties. Cut people who you find toxic out of your life, because you'll probably find that you are toxic to them as well.

This is so fucking true. You can't just be kind through words, especially text. You have to be kind in action, and generous, honourable. Selfless. It took me a while to realise this, and if you're wondering how to be kind through actions, you need to seriously reassess your outlook on life.

Words are wind, actions are stone. You can't fake an action as well as you can fake a word.

to follow this up and bring it back to the 'nice guys finish last' argument
if you're only nice because you think you'll get something in return then you aren't actually all that nice

Phewz wrote:to follow this up and bring it back to the 'nice guys finish last' argument
if you're only nice because you think you'll get something in return then you aren't actually all that nice

But what if, perhaps that said guy does something very important/or makes a huge impact on the girls life yet she goes with another.
isnt that said guy deserving of atleast a reward of some kind? :x

UnusAngelusAlatum wrote:

Phewz wrote:to follow this up and bring it back to the 'nice guys finish last' argument
if you're only nice because you think you'll get something in return then you aren't actually all that nice

But what if, perhaps that said guy does something very important/or makes a huge impact on the girls life yet she goes with another.
isnt that said guy deserving of atleast a reward of some kind? :x

True kindness is being kind and not caring whether or not you get anything out of it. Some people find happiness in making others happy.

i'll be honest you can do as much as you want and she wouldn't have to owe you shit. it's better not to expect anything out of people if you're gonna do something nice for them

nice guys finish last is the dumbest debate ever. no they don't. they drown in pussy

I beat up nice guys like you almost everyday, there's nothing good about them at all

lordkazari wrote:I beat up nice guys like you almost everyday, there's nothing good about them at all

i think I'm a nice guy so please dont beat me up. or i'll kick your ass.